If you think about it, there’s just no great reason for a gay couple in nyc to fear a trump win will impact their lifestyles. Most folks who’ve threatened such a move - I heard it a lot in ‘20 if Trump were to win - are just highlighting their unhappiness with the country’s political direction. And are seeing greener grass across the fence, that may look a lot less green once they get there.

I think your best chance to have a good life and hope for changes in the direction you’ll like is to stay put. The US still values individual rights more than just about any country on earth. Sticking around after Trump wins (if that happens) may not provide immediate emotional gratification, but it’s the best move.